AGONY: SCREAMING IN SILENCE Why the rich women do not report abuse, Silence. Survey shows the women fear embarrassing their husbands
Yet inside they are screaming in agony from the violence meted on them by their partners, shocking statistics reveal. And wealth is no barrier to abuse, a survey shows.
For they opt to keep quiet R rather than suffer the shame of admitting they are being abused by reporting to police or aid organisations. That is the sad reality, even though women suffering from rape, sex abuse and being battered do not get the justice they deserve.
Those who do complain suffer from skewed investigations,corruption and fear reprisals from their husbands and other family members. “Gender based violence is quite common in affluent neighbourhoods but they are never reported to authorities as women fear to tarnish the name of their family or husbands,” said Kennedy Otina, who works for Men to Men, a progmramme affiliated to the Femnet NGO.
“Women of means are reportedly more inclined to seek medical care discreetly elsewhere in case they battered,” states the report, ‘Battering, Rape, and Lethal Violence’ written by Claire McEvoy. “The high-income earners do not talk about it for fear of their reputation. They see a specialist and keep quiet,” states the report. Fifty-four per cent of survivors of wife beating were from Nairobi’s slums but an astonishing 26 per cent came from middle class or affluent areas.
The number could be higher in the middle and high class areas because many abused women were unwilling to report violence at home, which is often made worse by the reluctance of the police to provide help.
“This causes the number of reported cases to be a mere fraction of actual cases,” reads the report. “These areas are isolated and thus far from reach. It is hard to help women in these places because even if they cry out for help no one can approach their homes because they are protected,” said Mr Otini. They do not start court cases for “fear of shaming their husbands and families,” he said.
And he went on: “They cannot be accessed, they cannot be helped. It is just a big challenge; lack of reporting has resulted in constraints in getting the actual number of rich and middle class women who are abused.” The report suggests extreme violence against women in slums and among poor people may be rampant.